The Value of Being A Stay At Home Mom

Growing up I used to think that matters of the home seemed trivial. After all, for as long as I can remember there have been more serious issues to consider in the world than cooking a good meal, ironing a shirt or changing a diaper.  

Gloria Steinem

Needless to say, motherhood held little interest for me at the time. However, somehow in the midst of pursuing a career my life changed, and after having three children of my own, I can honestly say that becoming a mom is a good thing. I chose to be at home, a decision that was certainly challenging. I grew up with Gloria Steinem and the Women's Rights Movement enthusiastically sharing their message for "girls to go out there, get a job and strive for equal pay". I listened despite the fact that I grew up in a traditional household with a father who worked while my mother stayed home. I remember thinking without a doubt, that I would get out there and achieve something beyond the role of a domestic.

"Flash forward to the present. I wear an apron daily, clean my own house and cook our food. I am what I thought I would never become, a stay at home mom".

Despite my earlier influences I have come to realize that being a stay at home mom (who cooks) is a worthwhile job. When considering the savings alone, the role of a domestic is a valuable vocation. The cost of child care seems to be on a perpetual upswing. Nationally, the average cost for a week at a child care center (for one child) was $196 ($9,408/yr), an after-school sitter costs a family $214 ($10,272/yr) for 15 hours of work/week, while hiring a nanny rings in at a whopping $516/week ($24,768/yr) according to a report published by Brown bagging lunches can save an average of $2,00.00 per person annually according to and with labor costs on the rise dining out, two nights a week for a family of four averages $50.00 per meal with costs totaling around $4,800.00 annually

Savings aside, after all is said and done, simply being home has its' advantages. I had the opportunity to make sure that 'thank you' was a part of my kid's vocabulary, and to understand that there is no grey area between right and wrong. Then there was stuff I wanted to share about being tactful and personal hygiene; did I mention the value of parental guidance (nagging)? And why doubt the value of escapism through good food?  Even though baking a cake in my pajamas with an apron stained from the previous nights dinner may not be glamorous, nailing a 1950's buttercream certainly is.